“The only people who get upset when you set boundaries, are those who benefit from you having none.” — I didn’t know what boundaries were when I was younger. Actually, I never knew what boundaries were until a few years ago. I never had them. I did what I thought others expected of me, or what would make them happy. I wanted to please them, even to my own…

She called me brave. She called me courageous. She looked me in the eye. “You don’t settle. Most people settle.” I felt a little better, but so many other things had been said that were competing for my attention. Like, “Why can’t you make a commitment- You’re obviously not a…

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Or is it? While many people love the excitement and bustle of the season, many others feel overwhelmed, stressed out, and even depressed. Stress can be caused by feeling that we have to do certain things, that we must meet a certain…

they can be sour or sweet, depending on what you do with them. When life doesn’t turn out the way we’d hoped, planned, or expected, we feel tremendous disappointment and start doubting everything, including ourselves. What we need to acknowledge first is that we aren’t in as much control of our lives as we think. Things can change on a dime. …

I was about 50 years old when it hit me that I was a failure. A failure according to society, and to what other’s expected of me. The sad truth was, that I had blindly taken those expectations and made them my own. So, when I got divorced once, then…

We get told the story at a very young age, we don’t question it too much, we just assume that this is how things are going to be. So, we follow the road map we are given. If we venture off that road, on to trails that most don’t want…

Are you living your life for you, or everyone else? There are so many quotes and memes being shared on social media about being our true self, living fully, knowing our worth, letting our light shine, that type of thing, and they all sound great. While we’re reading them. But…

The cause of many great disappointments — “He was swimming in a sea of other people’s expectations. Men had drowned in seas like that.” — Robert Jordan With the holiday season upon us, I thought the subject of expectations might be a timely one to talk about. Many of us were brought up to strive for the…

I finally found mine. What’s yours? At some point in your life you were probably asked, If you could have any superpower, what might that be? The choices consisted of things like being able to fly, time travel, telepathy, night vision, and being invisible. I always chose being invisible. …